One truth I’m convinced of is this; in spite of all the challenges, worries, stressors, anxieties and frustrations that come with parenting, most of us are going to really miss all the fun times we enjoyed with our children as they were growing up. The time we have with them is really so limited when you think about it. The years pass by so quickly and before we know it they’re all grown up. That’s why we should savor and treasure every minute we have with our children.
It’s important when we are with our children to practice healthy humor that does not humiliate or degrade or embarrass our children or any member of the family. It’s alright to laugh WITH one another, but not to laugh AT one another. Humor is about having a good time together but not at the expense of someone else.
On a smaller scale you could surprise the family with a family outing during the weekend. Day expeditions to the park, the zoo, the mall, the waterfalls, the amusement park all welcome diversions for the whole family.
The Wong family learns about a new country every month by having a cultural dinner in which they eat the food of a particular country, listen to their music and even try to dress like them. “We had a Turkish dinner the other night at the house”, explains Mr Wong, “the children all helped decorate the house with a Turkish motif and they helped us prepare some Turkish dishes based on recipes my son downloaded from the internet.”
Mr and Mrs Davids make it a point to visit a new place on the first weekend of every month with their children. “Last month, we visited the bird park, which was my daughter’s choice, and next month my son wanted to swim in a waterfalls so we have chosen the waterfalls near Klang Gates. The idea is to let the children decide on something new and fun they want to do.”
I love the book by Lat that illustrates all the games he used to play as a child when he was growing up in the Kampung (village). My 5 year old daughter actually loves that book; she can spend a long time just flipping through the illustrations in that book because the games fascinate her. It reminds us what inventiveness and imagination on the part of our children can achieve.
My daughter loves inventing mini-games that she makes the rest of the family do. She uses simple household objects like pencils and paper, books and balls, slippers and socks, straws and cups, and she thinks of new, fun challenges all the time. When we were growing up, we used to call these tele-matches, or creative games. I think its wonderful when children are allowed to create new games. Parents should be sporting enough to play along and encourage this sense of imagination.
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